Boss tells assistant to stop chatting with coworkers, she maliciously complies by giving everyone the silent treatment: 'You told me to stop talking to people [...] So I did'

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    "You talk too much. Wait, why are you so quiet?"
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    You talk too much. Wait, why are you so quiet? M OC I originally posted this as a comment to another thread, and someone suggested this might fit here.
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    I used to work as one of three assistants for the engineering / r&d department of a medical company. My desk was situated between the other two assistants, and we were all in the middle of a cube farm.
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    It was problematic because everyone who had to go anywhere had to come by my desk. They would stop, say hello, and no matter how hard I tried, they'd start chatting. This of course impacted my work.
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    After a certain point, my supervisor pulled me into an office and told me that I'm talking too much, that it's impacting my work, and to not talk so much with people. I asked her to give me a script for what to say to people, and she didn't have anything to offer.
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    I was in counseling at the time and I asked my counselor the same question. She said to use the phrase, "I won't talk to you right now" and return to my work.
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    I'm a bit of a people pleaser, and that's too abrupt for me. So I stopped talking. To everyone.
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    After about a week, once again my supervisor calls me into the office. She asked me what's wrong. I told her nothing was wrong. She said people are complaining that I'm being antisocial.
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    I said, "you told me to stop talking to people, that I was talking too much, and it was impacting my work. So I did."
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    She said, "I didn't mean it like that". Once again, I asked her to clarify exactly what I should and should not say, how much conversation was too much, and what to say when the conversation went on too long.
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    Again, she had no response. She said, "Just don't talk too long." I returned to work. One of our lab techs was one of the chattiest, and one of the worst offenders. She came by my desk one day, we exchanged greetings,
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    and she started chatting. I quietly told her that I had gotten in trouble for talking too much, and I needed to get back to work. She respected that, and walked away.
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    I did that a few more times, and the point got made to the office. It didn't make my supervisor look particularly good because everyone knew when I said I was in trouble, what the source was, and when layoffs came sometime later, guess who was the first to go?
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    Don't get me wrong, it was a blessing in disguise. The severance was amazing, they paid for job placement training, gave us 9 months notice, and once our termination date came, they paid
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    us out in regular paychecks, not in the lump sum. During that time, for me, almost 3 months, I accrued vacation and sick time the whole time. They cashed it all out at the end.
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    The week after my severance package ran out, I found a job at another division of the same company and continued for another 11 years.
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    untitledfolder4 1 day ago Da if you do, if you don't. It amazes me how people like that boss get a management position without at least being able to provide guidelines for what they want in the office.
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    mizinamo 1 day ago +3. Especially fun if you're neurodivergent and your boss is neurotypical and just expects you to magically know how much is "too long".
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    tisonlymoi 1 day ago I was getting in trouble for talking, even got a written warning for it. The thing is, at the time, I worked for Safeway collecting the trolleys/carts.
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    My department manager asked me " why is it every time I look out the window you're talking".

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